Tuesday, June 27, 2017

Love TKO

As a musician and a writer, I am captivated by unique time signatures, minor keys, a smooth funk groove with lyrics that carry a riveting message.  I love songs that resonates with my spirit, for music carries a spirit indeed.

Lately, I've been paying a lot of attention to lyrics.  It is amazing how I gain messages out of songs I've been hearing for years-even songs as far back as my childhood.  There is one I loved as a kid, simply because of it's smooth funk groove. It's the kind of song that accentuates a long, leisurely drive on a hot, summer evening.  As a child, I had no idea what the artist was singing about; I simply loved the beat. I didn't know what a "Love T.K.O." was.  But as one gets older, that person has a tendency to pay more attention to the lyrics.
Growing up in a household with a boxing fan - my Dad -, I knew TKO was an acronym for "technical knock out." I had no clue how to relates or connects with love, however.  Just a couple of weeks ago, I kept hearing the late Teddy Pendergrass singing these particular words in his song:

Takes a fool to lose twice
And start all over again
Think I'd better let it go
Looks like another love T.K.O. (oh, oh, oh, )

I had a continual loop of those lyrics in my mind.  First of all, I'm wondering why am I hearing this song in particular in my spirit?  And those words?

Because I was the fool who lost twice, attempted to start all over again, when I should have let it go.


It is amazing how God speaks to us through the most unexpected and unusual things!  Yes!  I received a message through a secular song that truly hit home with me and my situation at that time.

There was a person who I gave too many chances to. Kept starting over with a fresh, positive mindset thinking, it will be better and things will progress nicely. Yeah right.

I have learned that when a person shows you who they truly are, BELIEVE THEM.
Yes, people can change; b
ut when you see this person's character in a consistent manner, and it's an unflattering one, believe them and humbly retreat. I got hit with a Love T.K.O; but PRAISE GOD, although down, I wasn't counted out.

A TKO is "when a fighter is getting pummeled and is unable to defend him/herself further. The referee or other applicable staff will step in and make a judgement call to end it and prevent the fighter from receiving any more unnecessary or permanent damage, and call it a TKO."

Although you're hurt, because you love that person, you're willing to get back in the ring.  Bruised and busted up, you sit in the corner in an effort to regain your posture after that devastating blow of disappointment inflicted by the one you love.  

But, you love this individual. So you hop up, ready to fight, once again, for your relationship.  

Then here comes God, the referee.  Aren't you glad when God steps in as a referee and make a judgment call to prevent any more unnecessary damage? 

The Scripture tells us in Jeremiah that God loves us with an everlasting love. Sometimes, that love is displayed in a tough manner, like a sudden end to a relationship that was truly toxic although we couldn't recognize or chose to deny its toxicity.  God is all-knowing and has our best interests at heart.  

Don't get in your feelings, turn on the referee (God) and start fighting Him.  Just understand that He knows best.  It's not wise for you to keep fighting (pursuing a toxic relationship) because it will only cause unnecessary or permanent damage.  

Know your worth.  Don't be the fool who lost twice and start over again.  Let it GO.


Scripture references:  Jeremiah 29:11, 31:3, Philippians 3:13-14