Well, I have.
A couple of days ago, I was cleaning out my email. I came across one email advertising the new movies that are either coming to theaters soon or are already playing. In the email, there was a movie poster promoting a new movie entitled, The Grudge. The image was truly disturbing. As I tried to quickly click away from that email, I got a revelation about grudges.
In the movie poster, all you see is a wall and the back of a man's head. It appears as if he's holding his head in frustration; but from within his hair, there are fingers in a grip position, as if a hand is growing out of his head and gripping the back of his head. Really creepy photo and yet, it captures the true essence of a grudge. (You can Google it: "movie the grudge")
By definition, a grudge is "to dislike or feel angry toward someone for something; to be unwilling to give or admit." It's like that thing has arrested the mind and heart of that person--to not be willing to let go or forgive someone. It's like the movie poster--a third hand with a vise grip on your mind.
That grip from the grudge stops the flow of love and forgiveness within you. The grip from the grudge diminishes your peace.
Photo courtesy of Google
**Not my photo**
What does the Bible says about grudges? Well, it says plenty.
Ephesians 4:31-32 MSG says, "Make a clean break with all cutting, backbiting, profane talk. Be gentle with one another, sensitive. Forgive one another as quickly and thoroughly as God in Christ forgave you."
Quickly and thoroughly. Forgive quickly so that the grudge of hurt, bitterness, anger, etc. will not take root. Roots are pretty tough to dig up. If you pull a weed and neglect to pull it up by it's root, the weed will grow back. Therefore, it must be uprooted. We forgive thoroughly, meaning, don't forgive partially. Don't forgive for one thing while holding on to another grudge against that person. Forgive entirely just like God through Christ Jesus forgave us thoroughly.
Proverbs 19:11 TPT says, "A wise person demonstrates patience, for mercy means holding your tongue. When you are insulted, be quick to forgive and forget it, for you are virtuous when you overlook an offense."
I know some of you are like, "Forget?! I can forgive, but I can't forget it!" No judgment; I've said and thought that, too. However, we serve an awesome God who can wash away those memories you've been harboring. Serve an eviction notice on those negative thoughts and grudges. Give those things and that person(s) who hurt you over to God. All it takes is a made-up mind and a sincere desire to be free from all grudges and negativity. Do you know that even your offering will not be accepted if you are holding a grudge or if you know someone who has a grudge against you?
Read Matthew 5:23. Forgiveness and letting go are pretty big deals with God. After all, He forgave us and our filthy selves.
Some of you may be saying, "But you don't understand what they did to me! How can I forgive them?" One time, I heard Heather Lindsey say, "forgive by faith." Make that your prayer and confession, and ask God to help you! Here's another nugget: pray for them. Like, earnestly, pray for them. Pray for their mind, their heart, their soul. And of course, ask God to infiltrate your heart with His healing touch. Don't pray for them to "get got." Pray for God to have mercy upon them.
Jesus is our greatest example to follow. The very ones who ridiculed Him, spat upon Him, beat and mocked Him, while He was dying on the cross, He asked God to have mercy upon them.
Jesus prayed, "Father, forgive them; they don't know what they're doing."
Dividing up his clothes, they threw dice for them. The people stood there staring at Jesus, and the ringleaders made faces, taunting, "He saved others. Let's see him save himself. The Messiah of God--ha! The Chosen--ha!" (Luke 23:34-35 MSG)
They were taunting Jesus while He was dying on the cross. They were gambling on His clothes while talking smack. Jesus didn't ask God to open the ground and swallow them up; He asked God for forgive them. What display of grace and forgiveness!
Here is a sample prayer:
Father God, in the mighty name of Jesus,
Thank you for another day of grace and mercy. Father, I come to you with a heavy, broken heart.
I know your Word tells us to forgive, and I ask for your help. Help me to forgive ____________. Lord, I thank you for helping me to forgive, and by faith, I have forgiven them. Lord, you instructed us to love our enemies, so Father, help me to love ___________. Just like you looked beyond my faults, help me to do the same. I thank you for healing my heart, my mind and soul. My mind is renewed in the things of Christ. I am no longer bound by grudges. Thank you Lord, for setting me free from grudges and negativity. This I ask in Jesus' name, amen.
Here are some additional Scriptures on grudges to read in your spare time:
Philippians 4:2 MSG
Do not forsake your peace; pray, forgive and let it go.
In His Love,
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